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juneau ak.

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Apr 3rd, 2018 04:15 PM   Edit   Profile  

What are your thoughts about it?

I admit I've become possessive of the bass player I've worked with for 3+ years and have weird thoughts about him bailing out and playing gigs with others (he gets asked all the time) I had a guy say "hey our bassist doesn't cut it, like to have "Ed" stand in for him and see how he does" I'm not sure how to take that.

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San Clemente, CA

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Apr 3rd, 2018 07:51 PM   Edit   Profile  

Our drummer is committed to us but plays with others. He sometimes works on sessions. It has not been an issue. He is very talented and enjoys jazz, American standards, and odd time signature music. My feeling is don't try to lock up or smother a player and they will stay with you.

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Buena Buena
Apr 3rd, 2018 08:49 PM   Edit   Profile  

Exactly. Don't be possessive.

If a player bails from your band, there's more to the story than just "they asked me."

If you have a signed contract...that's different :o)

Arizona Michael

United States

Apr 3rd, 2018 10:30 PM   Edit   Profile  

It's like a good marriage. Trust them and expect the same in return. In the words of .38 Special - "Hold on loosely but don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you're gonna lose control.."

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Apr 4th, 2018 05:38 AM   Edit   Profile  

I "stole" the drummer from my own band for this hard rock/metal band I joined recently.

My own band is on hiatus because I got sick and tired have doing everything myself.

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So. Cal. USA

Apr 4th, 2018 09:45 AM   Edit   Profile  

It's a free country. If somebody leaves they have their reasons. More gigs, less gigs, better pay, different music, personality issues.

I once did a 17 year stint in a band, we quit it for about three years and then went back for another 3 or 4. There were some drummer and bass player changes but it was a family that worked well together.

I'm coming up on 4 years with my current electric trio as a drummer. 3 years with the guitar player from this band as an acoustic duo.

It's really the people that make it happen for me. Friendly, humble, dedicated to music.

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juneau ak.

If you must smoke, please smoke salmon!
Apr 4th, 2018 12:42 PM   Edit   Profile  

I am in complete agreement with you guys as I said, "I've become possessive" and I "have weird thoughts" about "MY" bassist getting poached, the possibility of it happening is always there, nothings stopping anyone from playing or trying a new gig with whoever they want and I wouldn't have it any other way. We've got a time investment that I think we all value so I doubt anyone is going to intentionally pull the plug.

Just wondering if anyone has ever had similar thoughts about loosing a band member to another band.


LA-la-land, CA

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Apr 4th, 2018 03:43 PM   Edit   Profile  

Talk to him! Ask him straight up what you should say if someone asks about him.

Fast Lane Pablo


Apr 4th, 2018 04:25 PM   Edit   Profile  

My bass player is in about four other bands. He likes us best.


San Antonio, Texas

May 7th, 2018 03:51 PM   Edit   Profile  

There ain't no way to keep a band together... Bands come and go. You just gotta keep playin', no matter with who.

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Panama City, FL

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May 7th, 2018 07:03 PM   Edit   Profile  

I play in 2 bands, do studio work as a musician and as an engineer/producer, play in orchestras, run FOH for my church on Wednesday and Sunday and run a small sound for hire business. Everyone of them know the score and know that I work for who books the date first. I realized a long time ago that the only way to make any money at all in this business is to work as many dates as you can book. Even with this many irons in the fire I still work a full time job as well.

It would be different if this was a hobby for me, but it isn’t. If one of the groups I played with had a hard time with what I do I would move on to something else.

Fast Lane Pablo


Jul 3rd, 2018 11:34 AM   Edit   Profile  

My bass player plays in two other bands, my drummer in another and the steel player does some outside gigs. As long as they come home to me, I'm happy. I'm looking to find someone for a duo project.

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