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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Our band may have reached the end of the line last night

Rick Knight
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St Peters, MO USA

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Jun 21st, 2018 09:34 AM   Edit   Profile  

Our female singer is from the East Coast and has been involved with a guy back home for a while. Last night was the not surprising announcement that she’s moving back. Obviously, we could try to replace her, but we’ve spent a lot of time finding replacements and working them in over the last couple of years. No one, myself included, seems to be enthusiastic about another round. Differences of opinion about musical direction have been evident recently, as well as some friction between a couple of members. We left it at "think about it for a while", but the end has probably come. Three of us have been working together for 10 years, so I guess we had a good run.

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Jun 21st, 2018 11:42 AM   Edit   Profile  

Sounds like "The Thrill Is Gone". Some bands just don't last forever. My first band broke up but later reformed 18 years later. We are having more fun now than we did then.

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Jun 21st, 2018 02:14 PM   Edit   Profile  

It may morph into something different.

Hit up the open mics and jams in your area. Other bands besides yours are taking on water right now, and great players often wash up on the beach looking for the next gig.

gdw3

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Jun 21st, 2018 04:01 PM   Edit   Profile  

Good band members are hard to find. Stick with the ones you like and make something else happen with them.

Rick Knight
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Jun 21st, 2018 06:31 PM   Edit   Profile  

“Good band members are hard to find. Stick with the ones you like and make something else happen with them.”

The first original member to leave the band is still a friend of mine. He has told me more than once that he never found another situation like this band. Maybe that’s how we lasted this long.

Technically, we haven’t broken up and could still regroup. I don't think it’s likely at the moment, but that could change. If we are at the end, maybe some time to clear my head and focus on whatever I feel like working on might be in order before making any new decisions.

One member has already told me to call him when I'm ready to do something else. I’m not upset with, or ruling out working with, anyone; but not all fit equally in all situations.

(This message was last edited by Rick Knight at 08:46 PM, Jun 21st, 2018)

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Jun 21st, 2018 06:56 PM   Edit   Profile  

I've been struggling with this thing too. A working band is all about a lot of compromise. I'm getting to the point in life where I feel I have so little time left I"m not sure I want to do that.

Rick Knight
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Jun 21st, 2018 09:02 PM   Edit   Profile  

“A working band is all about a lot of compromise. I'm getting to the point in life where I feel I have so little time left I’m not sure I want to do that.”

It has been said that being in a band is like being in a plural marriage. Our band worked because we usually stayed within mutually acceptable parameters. That could be frustrating, but trying to find people with identical agendas or people who are willing to just follow yours sound like they would be frustrating too.

(This message was last edited by Rick Knight at 07:32 AM, Jun 22nd, 2018)

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Jun 25th, 2018 10:34 PM   Edit   Profile  

I get it Rick. My band has a song list. I honestly don't care for all but a handful of the songs.

However those songs are commercially viable cover band material and if we want to get gigs that's what we have to do.

So "Mary Jane" and "Hard to Handle" are there. I'd rather play "All I Want" by the Cure or some RHCP Jams. But then I"m talking about another band. And there is no guarantee I won't run into the same problem there.

The only solution is a non-starter. Do my own material and hire a bass player and drummer on a per diem to do what I tell them to do.

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Jun 26th, 2018 07:29 AM   Edit   Profile  

There is definitely a balancing act, Larry. Many people have said that a lot of music I like is too obscure to be commercially viable, so maybe it is. Cure and RHCP isn't that obscure. I would think that other people might be interested.

We played commercially viable material but didn't force anyone to play songs they strongly opposed. We also tried to include a healthy dose of recognizable songs that aren't on every other band's set list, added new material regularly, and got a lot of compliments on our selections.

Staying within mutually acceptable parameters can be frustrating because concessions are always being made. None of us like the process of auditions and integrating a new member, so it's understandable that people may want to consider other options instead of trying to put this back together again.

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Jul 2nd, 2018 10:02 PM   Edit   Profile  

Hard to believe but our 50/60’s Classic Oldies band played from ‘85 thru 2012... 27 years of fun!

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