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walshb
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Jul 27th, 2019 04:23 AM   Edit   Profile  

I agree, that was pretty crappy. As noted above, take it as one door closing and another one opening. And just play as often as you can.

I tend to go in spurts, when I have something new to learn, especially a challenging solo, I practice a whole lot more than usual. So IMO, what it takes is incentive. Find a way to give yourself some incentive, if necessary, to practice every day. And yes, jam with others whenever possible. I still usually don't play as well in front of others, as I do when I'm alone, and I've been playing for 48 years.

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Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Jul 27th, 2019 11:49 AM   Edit   Profile  

I think age can come into play from time to time. On craigslist my unscientific survey indicates there are more musician adds that say "should be around 30ish" than "age not a factor if you can play". From the audience it might be harder to accept a 70 year old singing Jack Johnson songs. More accepting for a 70 year old singing Rolling Stones or CCR.

greg1948
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Tbird Greg
Jul 27th, 2019 03:20 PM   Edit   Profile  

Good points, guys. I am going to keep up my 2 hr/day practice routines and play as often as I can with others, while doing age-appropriate songs!

Another twist to the story came today. After giving me the axe on Thursday, I got a text today saying that he and the other band members . want to know if I would fill in if needed! I basically replied "F*** off". After a year of hard work, to be kicked aside for a "new kid in town" was bad enough, but to find that out on Facebook was a betrayal of trust. I doubt I'll ever hear from him again.

Leftee
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The Escalator
Jul 27th, 2019 04:24 PM   Edit   Profile  

Well, that tells you that you are a fine player. (-:

mroulier
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Jul 29th, 2019 09:55 AM   Edit   Profile  

I thought when I joined my current band I was out and out "replacing" a bass player who was going out west for a skiing vacation from January thru April (for 4 months?? Must be nice!).
Unfortunately, the leader decided when he got back into town to give him a chance to salvage his job "because he was a founding member." Even though I knew I was better, and also sing backups, which the old guy did not. So we played a gig and the old guy played half a set, and I played the rest of the night.
After the gig, I emailed the leader and said, "If I'm not the guy, lose my number...cause I'm not filling in, or replacing him down the road if he goes on another 'vacation'." A bit bold, perhaps, but I learned a LOT of parts I'd never played before and would probably not play again except in this band.
Thankfully, I got the gig!

BbendFender
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Jul 29th, 2019 08:20 PM   Edit   Profile  

Sounds like the band leader just wants to be the star himself. You are probably better off.

I played in a band for about 3 years and this dude bought a big country dance club for the sole reason of having a place where he could sing. Trouble is, he couldn't sing and couldn't play guitar. He tried and bless his heart he's still trying to be a star.

Rick Knight
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Jul 30th, 2019 08:16 AM   Edit   Profile  

The band leader is a flake and finding out you've been fired on FB seems pretty low; but I don't know a good way to do it.

A guitarist, drummer and I once decided that the singer we were working with wasn’t cutting it. We wanted to spare his feelings because we liked him personally, so we decided that I should quit. They would use that departure to say it was time to throw in the towel. We would then work in a replacement and re-emerge in “his” band. Maybe it might have worked, but the guitarist sent a group email on the subject without removing the original singer's address. Instead of sparing his feelings, we made it worse.

(This message was last edited by Rick Knight at 10:59 AM, Jul 31st, 2019)

greg1948
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Tbird Greg
Jul 31st, 2019 03:29 PM   Edit   Profile  

The real kickintheass was the way he set me up before I went away. When we had started off, I brought a small drum kit to his house so the drummer wouldn't have to lug his in and out all the time. A few weeks ago, he asked if I wanted to sell the drums. I gave him a price and he accepted. I wondered at that time if he was planning to get rid of me. When he gave me the cash, he had me sign a receipt of payment. Then I really smelled a rat but I didn't want to believe he was planning to fire me. But that's what it turned out to be, despite his denials.

tahitijack
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Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Jul 31st, 2019 03:58 PM   Edit   Profile  

I'm with you on this but...if you are buying or selling and gear, whether its craigslist or a friend, always include a receipt. As an example without a receipt you could attempt to recover the drums alleging you never sold them. It does sound too coincidental though.

Leftee
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The Escalator
Jul 31st, 2019 08:09 PM   Edit   Profile  

You’re better-off clear of this creep.

greg1948
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Tbird Greg
Aug 1st, 2019 05:07 AM   Edit   Profile  

"As an example without a receipt you could attempt to recover the drums alleging you never sold them." Exactly!

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Oct 16th, 2019 09:34 PM   Edit   Profile  

At 73 I’m almost always the oldest performer at the Open Mics where I play twice/wk.

A couple of the places I play are biker bars where the patrons are mostly in their 20/30’s. Have to say the support I get from even these much younger folks is nothing but positive.

Playing music is age blind. Never let your age get in the way of playing out!

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Oct 17th, 2019 07:42 AM   Edit   Profile  

+1 !!!

gdw3

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Oct 17th, 2019 11:16 AM   Edit   Profile  

If the band leader is "hiring and firing" people,
A) sounds like a guy who's hard to work with and doesn't get along with people, and B) don't be surprised when it eventually happens to you! :) Sounds like you had a good run.

greg1948
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Tbird Greg
Oct 18th, 2019 06:32 AM   Edit   Profile  

I have decided that the band thing isn't working for me. Got a call from a former bandmate to join his new project. Worked on learning a bunch of new material only to have it fizzle after 4 rehearsals.

I'm going to stick with open mics as 6L6 does. Get up to play songs I know well, hang out a bit, pick up my guitar and go home. No drama!

PS: Just saw photo of the band that fired me online - the female singer has been replaced! It continues....

RicOkc

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"Let the music do the talking"
Oct 19th, 2019 03:48 AM   Edit   Profile  

Doing business that way, he'll find out that will come back & bite him on the Arse eventually.

littleuch
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Oct 19th, 2019 05:26 AM   Edit   Profile  

I've had a lot of fun gigging over the years, but also my share of the drama. Jamming with true friends, whether at a gig or elsewhere was the best of times, especially the ones with the most musical capabilities. I haven't had it in me to seek out new musical compadres in the 6 years I've been in Florida. I've had my share of dealing with the personality types that fancy themselves as "assertive" but really are just overbearing aholes. Putting up with these types in a 9 to 5 is one thing, but a weekend warrior/musical outlet? No way, no how.

Hope you can find some pleasure with your musical endeavors.

greg1948
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Tbird Greg
Oct 20th, 2019 05:06 AM   Edit   Profile  

So I gave up on bands, right? Until Friday morning, when I got a call from a venue where I'd left my business card two years ago. Wanted to know if my "band" could play that evening. So I called a couple of jam buddies and the drummer from my previous band and we did the gig. Did well enough to get hired for two more gigs.

So now what was a "for fun" group is getting more serious. The drummer and bass player are fine with that, but the rhythm guitar/vocalist is totally inexperienced in performing. He has "a few" to calm his nerves, but by the end of the night, he's sloshed (shocking, isn't it?). The drinking will have to stop or he's out. The drama continues.

Why do I keep getting into the band thing when it so often doesn't work out? I'm 71, so I should just retire, right? Thing is, I love being out there with a rocking band. But if this project doesn't work out, I'm really, really going to quit!!!

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Oct 20th, 2019 11:23 AM   Edit   Profile  

Larry, too bad I’m so far from ya, about an hour and a half. I would defiantly get together with ya a couple times a year. I have a buddy in Ocala that plays guitar and piano, he has the worst case of stage fright I’ve ever seen. I think he taught music in the public schools for awhile.

The three piece is done for the time being. We are all friends, Brownie had heart attack, blockage, about two months ago and is still in the hospital. He should make a 100% come back, no permanent damage, his wife was right on it with chest compressions, when it happened. Al and I take our acoustics, me on bass, down to Gainesville twice a week to play a few hours for him, and have since the second day. It was about two weeks before he started coming out of it.

Guitar Fool
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Oct 22nd, 2019 07:13 PM   Edit   Profile  

I feel for you...I've been crapped on too and had to be the crapper as well.....

sometimes it's just the way it is..

but it sounds to me like he was using you until he found someone he liked more...

I think your better off anyway...

my .02

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